The Source of All Pain (The David Deida Workshop – Part 2)


In just a few days, I had bought my ticket, booked my flight, found a roommate and a ride to the event.  I was in the perfect state of mind, which I define as having very low expectations while simultaneously holding very high hopes (this creates the most open space possible… think about it).

As 300 of us sat patiently in the ballroom of the beautiful Rancho Bernardo Inn, David came on stage and simply looked out at all of us for 30 seconds before he spoke (by the way, if you ever speak in public, this is a wonderful tactic.  It centers you, gets you in alignment with the energy of your audience, while increasing the curiosity and attention of the crowd).

He began with a history of consciousness that led to a profound conclusion – consciousness moves from time into space.  For example, as humans we can look at a yard stick and see that it is three feet long.  But an ant, who has limited spatial consciousness cannot.  The ant can walk across the yard stick, and thus experience it as 15 minutes long.  It experiences that dimension in time.  Make sense?  So for humans, emotions are currently experienced in time.  We say, "I was angry for fifteen minutes."  But as we become more conscious, we will experience anger in space.  Some of us have already done it, as we realize that we store our emotions in our body (tight shoulders anyone?).

Our own emotions exist in space, and have a huge impact on everyone around us. You've probably already noticed that if you're in a bad mood, or stressed out, you can easily stress out the people around you.  And if you're truly happy (as opposed to simply excited), then you can lift the people around you.  This became painfully clear as David had us do an exercise (you can try this right now)…

Imagine yourself in the most beautiful room you can fathom (I chose a huge open living room, with a wall of windows and french doors opening up to a long pool with cabanas around it).  Then imagine the partner of your dreams comes into the room, sits and curls up next to you and kisses you.  Feel that for a moment.  Now here's the punch line…  Whenever we are in a state in which we feel less than this relaxed, we are actually causing suffering to everyone around us.

It suddenly hit me how much suffering I had caused.  It made such an impact I could have gone home at that moment with a realization that was worth the full tuition.  But we had not even hit 5 mph yet.

Next:  Sex without Touching

The Superior Man (The David Deida Workshop – Part 1)


If you're a man, and you haven't read Way of the Superior Man, pick it up immediately.  It will either save your current relationship or your next one. (If you're a woman, do not tell a man to read it.  Simply leave it around somewhere for him to check out on his own).  I first read the book about 4 years ago.

The book is about the tragic loss of masculinity within our culture, and the triumphant rise of men who dare to claim it back.  If I can share one story, it would be a simple parable of a man coming home on the day he won his million dollar contract.  He's so happy and overjoyed, but when he gets home, his woman smiles briefly and quickly asks, "Did you remember to bring the milk?"…  So how does the man react?

The man is severely disappointed.  He just accomplished a major goal, and all his woman can think of is the milk (which he did forget).  Now I could identify with this man.  How could this woman be so insensitive?  I would have felt thoroughly deflated in this situation…  Little did I know, I was identifying with the weaker man.    

David re-tells the story, only this time the man hears the question and instead picks her up his arms, kisses her and says, "Baby, I'll buy you all the milk you could ever want!"  And she melts in his arms.   What's the major difference here?  In the second story, the man is unperturbed.  He doesn't need her validation.  He's so secure in who he is and his own purpose, that any question or complaint from his woman can't shake his resolve.   Wow. I had totally missed the boat.

Cut to 4 years later, and I'm sitting in a room with the superior man himself, and 300 men and women, in the hills of San Diego.  Each person clearly committed to their own growth, to their partner, or their future partner.

Next… Part II – The Source of All Pain

Zappos Insights – The Studio



Having fun with the video team and the Zappos talent. It's Corporate Training meets Wayne's World .

Climbing with the team



"Rock Climbing" with Donavon and Jon.

Embrace the dollar’s downfall?


In the Guardian, Dean Baker claims banks might suffer if China stopped buying US debt, but the US economy as a whole would be much better off.   But the comment below is what I found most interesting:

You overlook the reserve currency status. If the USA loses that (and it will) it will cease to be able to sustain the debt that it issues(it already can’t). It will be catastrophic. The Mountains of debt of the USA are only barely serviceable due to the dollar reserve status ie everyone requires dollars to trade, and that is currently and very tenuously underpinned by the oil trade being forced to be in dollars. This is the crux of the present perpetual war for perpetual peace that the USA/UK is currently waging all over the world. They are desperately trying to cobble and hold together an unravelling currency regime. If you control the source of energy you control the currency that they trade it in , and EVERYONE requires energy.

The UK benefits from this petrodollar as these are recycled via London banks to New York. The main reason that I can discern that is keeping us out of the Euro is this petrodollar dependency. The Euro is a competing currency vying for reserve status. This is also the reason why NATO insists on dominance in Europe, they dont want a Europe military to rival them. To keep a reserve currency you require a big stick to dissuade dissidents, you require a big military. The caspian area and the middle east are the two regions that HAVE to be controlled if you want to exert control over energy under any reserve currency.

Alas, the rucktions we see all over the world are the death throes of the dollar reserve currency. I fear they will plunge the ENTIRE world into war before they let it go.

Though assuming it would fall, and assuming we must embrace it, we’ll have to embrace local and micro-currencies (for more info, read “The Future of Money“). 

Also, it would be safer to invest in gold and commodities than stocks. For more on this, read “Crash Proof 2.0


Long-distance Life Coaching




For three years I worked with my life and business coach, Doc Barham, in person. I found him on Amazon where he had commented on almost every book on NLP.  But now that I work in Vegas, I wanted to try out virtual coaching.  So we’ve created a way to do that (see image).


Long-distance coaching with a Mac:

  • I use Skype for the call.
  • Recording the call I use Call recorder.
  • For notes I use the Mac Stickies program.
  • I eventually put all the notes into Evernote.